The Importance of Self-Compassion for Mental Health
What is Self-Compassion?
Self-compassion means treating yourself with the same kindness and understanding that you would offer to a friend or family member. Often times, our thoughts and beliefs about ourselves are created throughout our childhood. Words from peers in school, or even friends and family members, can lead to deep rooted thought patterns that can only be unlearned or reframed later. And sometimes, it isn’t the words that are said, but the lack of words or behaviors from those who are supposed to care about us, that can lead to feelings of being unworthy. Sometimes this can lead to self-criticism that creates “all-or-nothing” thought patterns that are unhelpful, and even harmful, for mental health. Examples of these thought patterns include believing that if you aren’t perfect in a particular task then you have failed. Or that if you aren’t loved by a person then you are completely unlovable.
How can i start practicing self-compassion?
Instead of harsh criticism, it’s about recognizing your worth and acknowledging that imperfection is a completely normal part of being human. Many of us struggle with an inner critic, which can amplify feelings of inadequacy or failure. However, by reframing negative self-talk into constructive, supportive language, we can gradually shift our mental outlook. For example, instead of automatically thinking, “I failed,” reframe this to the thought that, “I’m learning, and that’s okay.”
Research shows that self-compassion can significantly reduce stress, anxiety, and depression. By practicing self-kindness and challenging unhelpful thinking patterns, we build resilience and cultivate a more balanced mindset. Techniques like mindfulness, positive affirmations, and gratitude journaling can foster self-compassion. Practicing self-care is also a key aspect of self-compassion. This can include allowing time for rest, engaging in hobbies we enjoy, or setting healthy boundaries for ourselves and others. Surrounding yourself with supportive people and seeking professional help when needed are also acts of self-compassion.
Ultimately, self-compassion isn’t about avoiding challenges or being blindly optimistic; it’s about creating a strong emotional foundation to face challenges head-on with both confidence and kindness.
-Ciera Canaday, LCSW and Clinical Director